May is Mental Health Month: Talk It Out!

Eric Ibey is a most interesting speaker and podcaster, who I met at a conference in December and with whom I had a strong connection. Eric and I both speak on the topic of resilience, and we are both interested in sharing others’ stories.

Some of his accomplishments include:

  • Creating a blog called the Year of Fear and facing personal fears every month for one year, including stand-up comedy, hitchhiking, and visiting a nudist beach.
  • Designing, building, and marketing an online course called the Breakup Challenge that has helped over 500 people trying to heal and move on after a difficult breakup or divorce.
  • Launching The Eric Ibey Podcast, a conversation with ordinary people who have extraordinary stories to share.
  • Oh…and he also has an Engineering Degree and whole bunch of experience doing that!

I was honoured to be on his podcast, which you can check out here!

Deri Latimer is an expert in positive possibilities for people! A TEDx Speaker, Author, and Organizational consultant, Deri works with organizations who want to create happy and healthy workplaces for increased positivity, productivity and prosperity!

The Resilient Mindset Podcast

I am thrilled to have been able to be a part of Thrive TV’s podcast, talking about ‘The Resilient Mindset’! Check it out below!

THRIVE TV 007 – Deri Latimer – The Resilient Mindset

 

Deri Latimer is an expert in positive possibilities for people! A TEDx Speaker, Author, and Organizational consultant, Deri works with organizations who want to create happy and healthy workplaces for increased positivity, productivity and prosperity!

ENGAGE: Lessons From Death On How To Live Well

My older brother passed away on March 20. It was completely unexpected and way too soon. He was just 61 years old and fully engaged in his life.

At his Celebration of Life, I reflected on what I had learned from how he lived his life; and on how I could make some positive meaning from the huge gaping hole of sadness still present in my heart.

The morning of the celebration, I was not sure that I was going to be able to speak. While I wanted to share some memories of my brother, I felt nauseous and weepy, and unsure I would be able to pull it off.

At the last minute, I decided I wanted to do it…and no matter what…even if I was a blubbering mess…I was going to do it.

I am so glad I did.

My big brother taught me many things; mostly, he taught me to engage! Dene was a ‘yes-man’ in the last few years of his life. He was up for anything! If he was invited somewhere, he went. If he was sitting beside someone on the bus, he would strike up a conversation. If he attended a curling event, he would cheer loudly.

When I reflected on this gift from Dene, it reminded me of much of what I believe to be true about the pathway to living a good life.

I think that all of us – every human being – ultimately, wants to be happy. You already know that happiness does not come from outside of you…it does not randomly arrive, or not arrive, based on external factors. Happiness is an internal state, and is always created by what you choose to DO.

One thing you can do – like my older brother taught me – is to engage! What does it meant to ‘engage’. Very simply, it means that you:

  • choose to participate in events that are important to people you care about
  • jump in when you see a challenge before you
  • say ‘yes’ to a chance to help someone who could use it
  • connect with people you know, and also those you don’t
  • smile as you pass a stranger (and a friend)
  • do your best at work
  • ask for what you need in order for you to do your best at work
  • help others do their best at work
  • be grateful for the people who touch your life
  • let others know what you appreciate about them

I am so grateful that I chose to engage with Dene throughout his life, that I told him how much he meant to me, that I valued every moment we had together, that I laughed – and cried – with him, and that I chose to share my memories of him at his celebration.

Choose to engage. Notice how you feel. Repeat.