Not Crazy, Just Human: Cut Yourself Some Slack during the Holidays

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Over the next several months, we will be sharing some of the learning from “Not Crazy, Just Human: Moving Through Trauma to Healing”.

This first excerpt is timely. The holidays can bring all sorts of joy and also all sorts of stress. Remember to be kind to yourself can help!

Cut yourself some slack

One day last summer, I went for lunch with my brother, Devin. I am so grateful that we have always been very close. (Other than when he was young and annoying, of course!).

While we ate our Thai food during lunch last summer, Devin shared about a time ten years ago when he went through a tough situation.

“You were there for me, Der. You were always there for me. I want you to know that I am here for you too.” That was good to hear. He continued, “One day, when things were getting better for me, we were out for coffee, and I started talking about the tough situation again. I remember you saying, ‘Oh, I wondered when that might come up again.’”

“Did I really say that,” I asked. “Like in a ‘mean’ way?”

“Yes,” Devin said. “It was as though you just wanted to talk about something else—about something good, and you did not want to keep talking about that same bad situation. I am only telling you this because it might be affecting you now …  if you are being impatient with yourself, if you are judging yourself, if you are trying to just get over this, it could be damaging you.”

I thought about that a lot when I got home. Thanks, Dev. That was a huge gift to me. Even though I do not remember saying that a decade ago (and really do not ever want to be that way with others who are sharing something with me), it was a good reminder that if I don’t want to be that way with them, I should not be that way with myself.

So ,,, when you feel challenged, worried or irritated, or when you say or do something you really wish you had not, remember to be kind to yourself. Pause, put your hand over your heart, and speak to yourself like you would speak to someone you love.

 

Not Crazy, Just Human: Moving Through Trauma to Healing

Not Crazy, Just Human

The book is out in in print (paperback and hard cover) and e-book at Amazon.ca, Amazon.com, and Barnes & Noble online. And, the book is carried by McNally Robinson and Penny University Bookstore so far.

Your local bookstore can order it in for you, when you give them the ISBN:

Hardcover 978-1-989078-76-1
Hardcover 978-1-989078-80-8 (Large Print)
Paperback 978-1-989078-75-4
Paperback 978-1-989078-76-1 (Large Print)
eBook 978-1-989078-77-8

Large print is coming soon, and audiobook will be out in early 2020. We hope you will check it out!