Grandfather Teachings: Good For Us All

 

During a recent Indigenous Peoples Panel hosted by Suzanne F Stevens of the YouMeWe Social Impact Group, I first heard of the sacred Grandfather Teachings. 

As one of the panelists briefly described them, I was struck by the common humanity implicit in all of them. These are teachings for us all. These are values that we could all follow to create a better, more inclusive world.

I encourage you to do your own research, there is a lot more to read on each teaching, but below is a bit of what I learned during this panel experience.

LOVE: Knowing love is to know peace

Our love must be unconditional. This can form between friends and family. Love is an attachment based upon devotion, admiration, tenderness, and kindness for all things around you.

RESPECT: A way to honor creation is by showing respect

We demonstrate respect by realizing the value of all people and things, and by showing courteous consideration and appreciation. We must give respect if we wish to be respected.

BRAVERY: Facing a problem with integrity is a true demonstration of bravery

We do what is right even when the consequences may be unpleasant. We face life with the courage to use our personal strengths to face difficulties, stand tall through adversity, and make positive choices. 

TRUTH: Truth is having the knowledge of our cultural teachings

We know who we are in our heart. By knowing that, we also know the truth. Our emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual gifts will guide each one of us in our journey.

HONESTY: Facing a situation is to be brave, but having the courage to not only do the right thing, but also saying it, is honesty

When we walk through life with integrity, it is then that we know honesty. Be truthful and trustworthy. We must also remember to accept and act on truths through straightforward and appropriate communication.

HUMILITY: Humility is to know that we are a part of creation

We must always consider ourselves equal to one another. We should never think of ourselves as being better or worse than anyone else. Humility comes in many forms. This includes compassion, calmness, meekness, gentleness, and patience.

WISDOM: The mixture of these teachings, combined with the experiences of life, is what we refer to as wisdom

It is given to us by the Creator to be used for good. Wisdom carries other meanings, which also include intelligence or knowledge. When we cherish our knowledge or intelligence, we are also cherishing our wisdom. We must use sound judgement along with the ability to separate inner qualities and relationships. We must use a good sense and course of action to form a positive attitude.

Deri Latimer is an expert in positive possibilities for people! A TEDx Speaker, Author, and Organizational consultant, Deri works with organizations who want to create happy and healthy workplaces for increased positivity, productivity and prosperity!

Enjoy Fall…And Don’t Feed The Monsters!

Fall is such a beautiful time of year. Halloween is a part of it, although we aren’t quite sure yet how that will look in 2020!

Halloween is also all about ghosts, goblins, and monsters. They are generally pretty fun, on and around October 31.

Monsters, however,  are not fun when they take the form of distressing thoughts in your mind. And when you feed them by focusing on them too much, or suppressing them too quickly, they get stronger and stay longer.

One area of distressing thoughts occurs when you compare yourself to others. ‘How come he is doing so much better than me in business?’; ‘Why can’t I find cool clothes like she does?’; ‘Why am I envious of that person; what is wrong with me?’

First, remind yourself that distressing thoughts are normal. We all have them from time to time. Next, practice a strategy to manage those distressing thoughts without ‘feeding’ (magnifying) them.

Tara Brach teaches a method known as RAIN:

Recognize what is happening:

The first step is simply to recognize that the thought, emotion and behavior is occuring. Just notice.

Allow the experience to be there, just as it is

Allowing means simply that. Allow the distressing thoughts, emotions, feelings and sensations to be there, without trying to fix or avoid them. You can even say something to yourself like ‘It’s ok.’ Allowing creates space to pause and go deeper.

Investigate with interest and care

Be curious. Direct focused attention on your present experience. Ask yourself questions such as: What most wants attention? How am I experiencing this in my body? What am I believing? What does this vulnerable place want from me? What does it most need? This will be most useful when you bring your primary attention to the felt sense in your body. Then simply say say, ‘Hello, I know you are there.’

Nurture with self-compassion

Be kind to yourself, and that part of yourself that is hurting. Try to sense what the wounded, hurting part of yourself needs, and then offer a gesture of active care. Does it need a message of reassurance? forgiveness? companionship?love? Experiement with what gesture might soften and open your heart. You might mentally whisper,  “It’s going to be okay. You are okay. This is a challenging time right now. I love you, and I’m listening. Trust in your goodness.” Practice with a hand over your heart, and envision being bathed in warmth and light.

Check out Tara Brach’s RAIN meditation here:

 

Strategies for Successfully Working Remotely

What follows are a few strategies to enhance your experience, productivity, and well-being while working from home:

  • Set up a work station in your home that is for work only, if possible. Keep all of your work-related items (laptop, files, pens, etc.) in your ‘home office’.
  • Manage your time as you would if you were in the office (as much as possible). Optimal performance is achieved when you work in 90 minute segments, then take a break.
  • Move away from your work area – to another location – during break time. Maintain comforting rituals that help you relax and refresh, before returning for your next 90 minute segment.
  • Continue with regular Check-Ins using the your organization’s performance mangement/team development process, to ensure that you continue to:

               Create Clarity.

                                Generate Energy.

                                                 Deliver Success.

  • Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Engage regularly with your manager and with your team. If your situation is such that you cannot maintain regular working hours, or if you expect to be distracted by family or other obligations during certain times of the day, let your manager know. If your situation is untenable, consider taking vacation days so you can focus your attention where it needs to be.
  • Use video platforms whenever you can. For your regular Check-ins using the TDP, for conversations throughout the day, and for team meetings. Use good meeting protocol for video exchanges: have an agenda, come prepared, make commitments, agree on actions to move forward, and take minutes.
  • Schedule times for fun, non-work related conversations – just as you would ‘around the water cooler’ or in the lunch room back at the office.
  • Share tips and strategies on working remotely. If you have discovered something that really works for you, share it with the team. If you are struggling with something, reach out and ask for strategies from others.
  • Keep your wellness regime in place. Eat well, exercise, think positive thoughts, learn, get outside, connect, meditate, sleep….do all those things that you have always done that help you to feel well (while keeping a healthy social distance).
  • Remember, successful performance systems are built on a foundation of appreciation. Be sure to let your department team, your manager, or any member of the organization (or it’s stakeholders), know what you appreciate. And, appreciate yourself for each new strategy you learn and use during this temporary challenging time in our world.

Deri Latimer is an expert in positive possibilities for people! A TEDx Speaker, Author, and Organizational consultant, Deri works with organizations who want to create happy and healthy workplaces for increased positivity, productivity and prosperity!