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One-Buttock Living

If you have not already seen Benjamin Zander speak, you have got to check him out.? You’ll be smiling for days!? I want to hang out with this dude!!

In the video below,?Zander references playing with “one-buttock” on the piano.? It’s a different way to play the piano, and the result (the music) is considerably transformed by the position of the perfomer’s body (i.e. one buttock or two).? One-buttock playing also transforms the listener – it’s a different kind of experience of the piano player.? When you live, work, and parent?on one-buttock…YOU are different and those you interact with are transformed.

What if leaders, parents, teachers adopted the stance of one-buttock living?? What might be the results?? How might the teams, children, students be transformed?

How do you recognize one-buttock living?? Well, you’ll notice a lot of ‘shining eyes’ around you.? Starting, of course, with the eyes that look back at you every day when you look in the mirror.? No leader, parent, or teacher can inspire shining eyes, when their own eyes do not shine.

Zander explains in the video that he believes that?we all have the capacity to love classical music, to be moved by it.? He does not doubt it.? And, he goes on to say that all leaders can experience shining eyes when they have that same kind of absolute belief in their teams.? “It?s one of the characteristics of a leader that he (she) ?not doubt for one moment the capacity of the people he?s (she’s) leading to realize whatever he?s (she’s) dreaming.?

What do you believe about your team, your children, your students?? Do you believe completely in them and in what’s possible for them to achieve?

My experience has shown that a?key to helping your own eyes?’shine’ is to have a practice of mindfulness.? At the very least, mindfulness will allow you to be ‘present’ and to notice and appreciate the shining eyes around you.? Check out the following video in which? Congressman Tim Ryan and Jon Kabat-Zinn share some wise words about the power of mindfunlness.

Watch Mindfulness Going Mainstream on PBS. See more from Religion & Ethics NewsWeekly.

Deepak Chopra has set out to transform the world to become more mindful.? Some might argue he’s been doing just that for many years.? Now, he is on a mission to inspire a “critical mass” to create a more peaceful, joyful, sustainable, healthy?world.


Zander challenges us by saying: ‘Ask yourself – who am I being that my children’s eyes are not shining?’.? As leaders, parents and teachers, we can ask ourselves the same question.

Look around right now. How many shining eyes are around you?

?Deri Latimer, B Mgt, CSP, is an expert in positive possibilities for people! She is one of fewer than 10% of speakers globally who hold the designation of Certified Speaking Professional. Deri combines a Business degree in Human Resources with experience from business sectors including health care, manufacturing, education, agriculture, government, mining, transportation, tourism, and professional services. Deri provides practical strategies for mental health ‘at work’; impacting individuals and organizations?to increase resilience to change, energize engagement with the organization, and propel meaningful performance results that last!??


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