Rock and Roll!

I just delivered a workshop on Developing Personal Resilience at The University of Winnipeg.? No matter how many times I deliver that workshop or speak on that subject, I am?blown away by?how well the people in the room connect with the concept of resilience.? It always ends up being a completely fun day of enlightenment and energy.?

When you are resilient, you can ‘bounce back’ or ‘roll’ with the challenges in life, and still be okay.? A nice definition I have used is ‘Resilience is the ability to absorb high levels of change while maintaining your personal resourcefulness’.

When I saw this video clip, I was reminded about how many examples of resilience we see around us every day.? Check it out – it’s just 46 seconds long.

I love the wonderful example of resilience in this mother duck and her ducklings.? No matter how much they ‘roll’, they get right back up and keep moving.?

Yesterday, as I drove the streets of Winnipeg and approached a stop light at a popular intersection, I watched the ‘squeegee’ guy at the corner.? As traffic stopped, he ran up to?the first car, and waved his ‘wand’ to check on interest for a ‘cash for window wash’ opportunity.? I saw him be?rejected over and over, and still proceed to the next car with a huge smile and just as much enthusiasm as the last car.? He seemed to have an incredible ability to maintain hope that he would be able to score some change for a window clean.

Another example involved a young girl in a stroller.? I was behind her mother in line, and the young girl was working hard to get a goldfish cracker out of her cramped container.? She worked and worked at it, and for several?seconds (which likely seemed like minutes or even hours to her)?got nothing.? Then, she shook the container…fish crackers went flying everywhere…and she happily scooped up the one that remained in the container (with a very satisfied look on her face).

So – what helps you to ‘rock and roll’ like the ducks, the squeegee guy and the little girl?? I think three things.

First, stay focused on what you want.? The ducks were focused to keep moving forward – in a row, of course.? No matter how much they were blown around, they got back up and kept moving.? When we focus on what we want, we see solutions or pathways?to get there.? (And, when we focus on what we don’t want, we see only the obstacles.)

Second, choose positive internal dialogue.? Okay, I’ll admit that I don’t know what the ducks were thinking.? Nor the squeegee guy or the little girl, for that matter.? I do, however,?have some guesses.?? The ducks looked like they might be saying to themselves?’wow… I am a little dizzy… and that was kind of fun!’? The squeegee guy might have been thinking?’I bet if I smile right at her, that lady with the spiky hair will have some change for me.’? His internal dialogue was written all over his face (which made giving him some change much more of a possibility).? And the little girl might have said to herself?’I know that cracker is going to taste awesome when I get it.? Last week I shook the container and I could get one out, so I am going to?try that now.’

Third, persist.? To me, being persistent is about a kind of subtle stubbornness.? It’s about?refusing to give up – no matter what is happening.? I know, that’s easier said than done.??Particularly when life is throwing some heavy, painful things at you.? However, the more you practice it, the better you’ll get.? In fact, the more rocks along the way, the better you are able to ‘roll’.? I’ll bet you know that already…the worst experiences, the most challenging life events, can be very meaningful teachers.??

So, no matter what you are facing right now – a co-worker that is frustrating you, a boss who is ‘absent’, a spouse who is distant: focus on what you want, choose positive internal dialogue (it’s astounding how much it will impact your mind and your body) and take one step, then another, then another.??Keep moving.
Life has some bumps along the way, some ‘rocks’ along the road.? You cannot control those.? You can, however, control some things; most notably to choose to ‘roll’ with it, get up, shake it off, and keep moving ahead!
Deri Latimer, B Mgt, CSP, is an expert in positive possibilities for people! She is one of fewer than 10% of speakers globally who hold the designation of Certified Speaking Professional. Deri combines a Business degree in Human Resources with experience from business sectors including health care, manufacturing, education, agriculture, government, mining, transportation, tourism, and professional services. Deri provides practical strategies for mental health ‘at work’, impacting individuals and organizations?to increase resilience to change, energize engagement with the organization, and propel meaningful performance results that last!?




8 Replies to “Rock and Roll!”

  1. Wow your timing is so awesome!!!!!!!!! I was just thinking of some things that have been going on in my life and this fits so well. As I was reading and thinking of what great timing it was I just had my day blown away with a bit of news about a student. AGAIN……..the timing of this message is so awesome. I guess I’ll go and roll with the punches and hope I don’t get rocked off my feet.

    Thanks so much. You are so totally awesome.


    Take care cause I care

    1. Yeah – I love it when that happens! Timing is everything!! You are awesome Muriel – because you take time to tune in and make adjustments as you need them. You’ll surely keep ‘rolling’!
      Regards, Deri

  2. Your note couldn’t have come at a better time.

    Here’s another of my favourites,


    ?There is a vitality, a life force;

    a quickening that is translated through you

    into action, and because there is only one of you

    in all time, this expression is unique.

    And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and will be lost.

    The world will not have it.

    It is not your business to determine how good it is,

    nor how it compares with other expressions.

    It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly – to keep the channel open.

    You do not even have to believe in yourself

    or your work. You have to keep the channel open.

    No artist is pleased.

    There is no satisfaction whatever at any time.

    There is only a queer, divine dissatisfaction;

    a blessed unrest that keeps us marching

    and makes us more alive than the others.?

    Letter from Martha Graham to Agnes DeMille

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