Be Here NOW

It’s holiday season. The stores are bustling. Homes are decorated. Friends and family are gathering to share in some holiday cheer. I love this time of year!

That is not the case for everyone. The holiday season can be one that brings dread. It might be filled with feelings of sadness and loneliness. For some, depression can take root due to unmet expectations, a recent loss, or the perception that you are the only one not having a great time.

This is the perfect time of year to Be Here NOW. To pause. To just ‘be’.

Resisting whatever you are experiencing, or perpetually wishing things were different than they are for you, can rob you of the present moment. This is a reminder that the present moment is the best gift you can give yourself today – and every day.

If you are already have a meditation practice, you already know what it can offer to you. If you do not, I invite you to begin with one minute of meditation each day through the holidays. (I bet you’ll be hooked …and will want to continue!)

My favorite time is in the morning. Awaken just a few minutes early. Sit up in bed (or stay lying down if you think you can be sure not to fall back asleep!), put your feel flat on the floor, back upright, hands comfortably in your lap. Set your timer for 1 minute. Close your eyes. Notice your breath. Simply observe your breath going in, breath going out. Just notice. When your timer rings, shut it off and sit for a few more seconds. In those few seconds, reflect on one thing to which you are looking forward for that day. Just one thing. See it. Hear it. Taste it. Feel it.

My friend and fellow Professional Speaker, Dave Carroll, wrote a beautiful song, which has inspired the title of this post. The lyrics are so eloquent. The message is powerful.

When There’s No Way Out There’s Still A Way Through

So Don’t Give Up Whatever You Do

Surrender To Moments And Things As They Are

From The Gaps In Your Catch-22’s

When There’s No Way Out There’s Still A Way Through

Take a listen. You’ll fall in love with his beautiful voice, and even more beautiful message.

Wrap up this priceless present to yourself. Be Here NOW.

Deri Latimer is an expert in positive possibilities for people! A TEDx Speaker, Author, and Organizational consultant, Deri works with organizations who want to create happy and healthy workplaces for increased positivity, productivity and prosperity!

A Gratitude Letter to My Doctor

High Five!

Have you thanked your doctor lately? How about all those other really important people in your life, who truly contribute to your happiness and well-being.

My doctor just retired. It was a moment. She’s been my doctor since I moved to this city at the age of 27. She meant a great deal to me. I think I told her that in person, regularly. In posting it here, I am addressing it to doctors everywhere. I am also writing this here to inspire you to pause and appreciate those key people in your life.

 

Dear Doc:

Thank you. You make a difference.

I am sure your days are filled with people complaining, being impatient at having to wait, experiencing all kinds of anxiety at hearing a test result…and there you are, plugging away and greeting each of us like we are the first person you have seen that day.

I want you to know – in case I don’t say it often enough – you are very important to me. You are as valued as my friends are to me. You attend to me physically, and you also help me be better emotionally. Everything you say, and how you say it, makes a difference in my day.?

You greeted me as a new patient to you, who was also new to this city and to a brand new phase of my life. You gave me the news that I was expecting both of my children, and you cared for us through those pregnancies and all of the follow-up care. Even though you were no longer taking patients, you accepted my request to see my mother who was in the early stages of cognitive dementia and fearful of what was in store for her. You took on my daughter as a patient as she developed into womanhood, and you even allowed me to ask questions about her during my own appointments. You have allowed me to breathe easier when I found ‘something’, somewhere on my body, and you were able to put my mind to rest about that thing.

I hope you know – and always know – that you have added to my life in immeasurable ways. I will always remember you with fond thoughts.

You are not replaceable, but I hope I am able to find someone just like you. Someone who chose this career path because she or he had a passion for helping people continue to be better. Someone who is caring, kind, considerate and brutally honest when that is required! Someone who truly sees me, hears me. and values me as I will see, hear and value them.

Thank you, Doc! High Five to you!

Warm Regards, Deri

So, who can you send a letter to today?

Deri Latimer is an expert in positive possibilities for people! A TEDx Speaker and Author, Deri?s message reinforces that positive habits are the pathway to a happier and healthier life ? at work, at home and at any age!?www.derilatimer.com

The Gift of a Rainy Day

A Rainy Day Hangout
A Rainy Day Hangout

It can be a drag. You’ve been working hard all week and have been looking forward to a weekend of fun outdoors. After a week of commuting in blistering heat, you wake up on Saturday morning to cloud cover and a drizzly forecast. Groan.

It’s perfectly okay to be a bit bummed out. I mean, you had big plans for the day; sunbathing, gardening, going for a long walk in the park, a get-together with friends on a steamy deck enjoying great conversation over a cold drink or two.

Once you’ve given yourself permission to sulk a little, decide what opportunity this quick change in plans has provided to you. I think that sometimes the universe provides for us the very thing we need that we might not give to ourselves.

Here are a few ‘rainy day’ ideas:

  • Skip the shower and don your favourite ‘comfy’ clothes (no shaving, no make up, choose to go au natural!)
  • Enjoy your coffee and morning paper for an extra long time; read the sections you tend to skip when you are short on time.
  • Clean out those drawers that you have been thinking about for the last two (or ten) years. You may discover things long forgotten and thought long lost.
  • Pull out that craft/hobby/special project that you never get time to do on a ‘normal’ busy day off. Remember why you enjoy that activity.
  • Go through your photo albums and just enjoy the memory-filled ride. Pause and take yourself back to the time when the photo was taken. What emotions are attached to it? For what and whom are you grateful during that time in your life?
  • Snuggle under the afghan and watch movies – all day!
  • Sort the 1000+ photos still on your phone and send them off for processing or organize them into an on-line album. You’ll be so glad you did.
  • Play a board game (you still have some around, I bet!)
  • Write a gratitude letter to someone special in your life. Take your time.
  • Read a good book.
  • Phone your Mom (or Dad, or Aunt, or Sibling, or Good Buddy) – just to chat.
  • Meditate; you’ve always wanted to try it, right?
  • Play charades with the whole family; the kids, although hesitant at first (depending on their age) might just like it!
  • Take a nap – on the couch – or wherever you darn well feel like it!
  • Cook dinner together. Make everyone responsible for one part of the dinner. Make it a ‘no rules’ experience (i.e. start with dessert…in fact, it can be all dessert!!)
  • Cuddle with your partner; who knows what that might lead to… it’s all good for you at any stage of life!
  • Go outside! There is something vero relaxing about walking in the rain. If the temperature is warm, skip the umbrella!

I’d love to hear your rainy day ideas. What gift has a change in plans provided for you?

Deri Latimer is an expert in positive possibilities for people! A TEDx Speaker and Author, Deri?s message reinforces that positive habits are the pathway to a happier and healthier life ? at work, at home and at any age!?www.derilatimer.com